I am a recovering Perfectionist.
For years (okay, decades really) I swore up and down that I was not a perfectionist. Other people, yes, definitely: PERFECTIONISTS!
But, me? No way.
But, actually, yes.
I am a perfectionist.
And, I can say I am recovering because now –
after leaving behind the corporate world and
starting up and running my own business while
raising two young children – I have been forced by
circumstances to realize that I cannot do it all.
In fact, the simple strategies I share with my
clients are the same secrets I use in my own life
to Tame the Perfectionist tendencies that
previously impeded my platinum performance.
If you too are a perfectionist, then read on.
Here are 4 simple steps YOU can use to forego the
perils of perfectionism and improve your
One: Ask yourself “what is enough?”
Getting clarity about “what is enough” is
critical for drawing a line in the sand.
Is it okay to write an email without re-reading
it 4 times?
(Would re-reading it one time suffice?)
Would you be comfortable with making one phone
call to inquire about the possibility of working
together with your targeted prospect or partner,
even if you don’t have an entire plan for how you’ll
(Maybe you just say “Hi, I really love the work
you do and I wonder if we could find a time to
talk more about your vision for your business and
any possibilities for working together?”)
Can you give yourself permission to go to bed
without getting everything on your list done?
(Because the reality is there is always more to
Two: Take a deep breath and practice living with
“enough” for a few days.
Just because you drew a line in the sand, does
not mean it will be there forever. You drew it in
the sand, remember? And even if you drew the line
with permanent marker, I can tell you that it too
will eventually fade or wash away. (I know this
for a fact, because I have two small children and
I go everywhere with a Sharpie! I have to re-write
each child’s names on the clothing and on the
lunch boxes again and again and again.)
Three: Notice what changes as a result.
By not re-reading each email four times, what
space did you create for other things?
By not waiting until all the behind-the-scenes
details were “just right,” what was able to move
forward and what resulted?
By not getting absolutely everything done at the
exact time you decided it should get done, what
I’ll bet you discovered you had more time than
you thought you did, which allowed you to enjoy
more of life.
And that you actually do a pretty good job of
listening and thinking on your feet, resulting in
possibly even better results that you could have
Most important, perhaps, is I’m guessing you were
able to re-direct your energy to other more
important and more inspiring activities and
Four: Repeat, evolve, and prosper.
Ultimately, the more you let go of your
perfectionist tendencies, the better you will get
at making it easier for yourself, being more
adaptable, and reaping the benefits of just being
in the moment.
You’ll see your overall performance reach what I
call a PLATINUM level, where you:
- Have a steady, high level of energy
- Catch more green lights, get more business and laugh more
- And generally have a greater appreciation for all that is in your life.
So, try out this simple 4-step approach.
From one perfectionist to another.
And let me know what you discover.
Email me at Info@YourPerformanceBreakthrough.com
I’d love to hear from you!