Today is Miles’s 2nd birthday and tomorrow I leave for Bali…

When you rise above the distractions and stresses of daily life, you realize there are precious moments of life happening NOW that are worth celebrating. And being present to these moments translates to better performance in all areas of life.

Two of those moments are happening for me now.

First, my younger son Miles turns two years old today. He’s two! Can you believe it? All those years of wanting another child, suffering through miscarriages and self-doubt, all washed away.

He is here now and he is an incredible source of joy, laughter, mischievousness, and curiosity in our lives. Thank god for Miles!

Second, I leave for Bali tomorrow. I’m going back to Bali, ya’all! Even though I’ll miss my family terribly, I know I’ll come back with a renewed sense of presence and grounding, as well as an incredible boost of energy and passion for my life and my business.

This year’s performance breakthrough retreat is based in two wonderful locations in the gorgeous Indonesian island paradise that is Bali. We’ll spend most of our time in the cultural center of Ubud, and our final days on the more remote northern coast where we’ll stay at a resort on the black volcanic sand beaches. How cool is that?

Even though most of you will not be joining us in Bali this time, I invite you to embrace the spirit of Bali while I’m away. To find your own precious moments amidst the intensity of modern life. To benefit from focusing your mind on what matters most.

How?

First, take a few moments to close your eyes and imagine yourself in a beautiful, natural paradise of your choosing. Maybe your mind takes you to the mountains or the desert, or to the beach or beside a lake. Feel in your body how it feels to be there, without a care in the world. Relaxing, breathing, enjoying just being alive, connected to nature.

Take this feeling with you—imagine you could bottle it up and open it at any moment in the day to return you to that joyous state of being. Allow it to shift your energy so you can be present to the magic of the daily miracles unfolding before you.

Second, do your own little ceremony around the time of the full moon on October 29th.

While in Bali, we’ll be visiting temples for purification and cleansing rituals, and doing our own ceremony to let go of the old and welcome in the new. I hope you’ll join us in spirit by doing your own at-home or in-office ceremony!

Take some time that day to set an intention for (1) What you’d like to let go of – something that no longer serves you in your life, and (2) What you’d like to welcome in – something you’ve been longing for in recent days, weeks, maybe even months.

By releasing negative feelings and letting go of obligations that you dread, you’ll be reducing your stress level and positively re-directing your energy to what you want more of in your life. That translates to being more present in your daily interactions, experiencing more joy, and performing better at work and in life. Sounds great, doesn’t it?

Third, mark your calendar. I’ll be hosting a free call about this year’s Bali retreat on Wednesday, November 14 at 12 noon Eastern time. I’ll send out another email closer to the date with details on how to register for the call.

Lastly, if you have not yet picked up a copy of my new book, check it out while I’m away! You can order a paperback version from my website or Amazon.com and have it delivered by snail mail to your preferred address. Or, you can go the green route and download a Kindle version from Amazon.com.

Either way, I know you’ll be inspired by the simple, Eastern-inspired ideas and the additional online audio and video resources that are a part of Recharge, Refuel, and Re-energize: Your Guide to Taking Back Control of Your Time and Energy.

In between temple visits and massages, visits to healers and yoga & meditation, I’ll be checking my email and would love to hear from you! Contact me by email and share your thoughts on my new book!

And remember…

I want you to be successful, so you can make a positive impact on the world. And I want you to be able to do this with a sense of ease, joy, and steady focus. (Because when you feel good, that translates to better performance and better results!)

What are the 3 C’s for more Ease, Joy, and Focus?

First, let me extend a warm welcome to everyone I met at Bracket a few weeks ago and at this past Saturday’s Collingswood Book Festival! So glad to know you and have you as part of my community!


I’ve been hearing from you. Lots of you.

If I had to sum it up, I would say that you are…

  • Excited about your future, but anxious about how it will all unfold
  • Feeling rich in spirit, but desiring more cash flow
  • Exhausted and feeling heavy, and eager to re-kindle your spark and have more energy
  • Desiring support to “make it all better”

I want you to be successful, so you can make a positive impact on the world even sooner and in an even bigger way. And I want you to be able to do this with a sense of ease, joy, and steady focus. (Because they lead to better results!)

So, here are some free, portable tips that helped me this past week, easing back into “normal life” after my friend Pat’s funeral and my trip back home. Call them the 3 C’s for Ease, Joy, and Focus!

CLARITY

Sit down and write out what is most important to you in the big picture.

Write on an envelope, the back of a napkin, in a notebook, or journal, anywhere.

This will help you have some perspective, and make it easier to let go of the small stuff.

COMMUNITY

Get thee some support! Don’t go it alone.

Reach out to friends, colleagues, healers, therapists, etc.

More often than not, they too are experiencing similar challenges and welcome the opportunity to connect more deeply with you and support you.

CONNECT

If you’re not spiritual or religious, you probably have your own version of quieting your mind to connect to what’s deep inside you—that place where peace and steady calm reside.

Maybe you run. Maybe you golf.

Maybe you journal, or walk in nature, or play with your dog or kids or grandkids.

If you are spiritual or religious, get back on track with the practices that support your connection to spirit, Source, God, Universe, the Divine. Maybe it’s prayer.

Maybe you practice yoga or meditate. Maybe you do something in service to others.

Cultivate and nourish your connection to the source of your divine spark of life and creativity. Daily, if possible.

SPECIAL OFFER for GROUP INSPIRATION AND SUPPORT

If you’d like to invite me to lead a workshop or talk at your place of work— or even spend an evening with a group of friends in your home (call in a “girls night in” sort of thing!), I’ll share Eastern-inspired practices guaranteed to melt stress, refocus energy, and refuel spirit.

We can even incorporate a book signing for my new book, Recharge, Refuel, and Re-energize: Your Guide to Taking Back Control of Your Time and Energy, or perhaps Reiki attunements for those interested.

I’ll customize the event just for you.

Contact me by email for more details.

NOTE: I leave on October 23 to lead this Fall’s Bali Retreat, and would love to hear from you before then so we can schedule something for the months of November through February. 😎

When is the best time to take a vacation?

You need vacation time. You know that already.

But when is the best time for you to take vacation?

You might think one of these is the right answer:

(A) When things are slow or you have no demanding

projects demanding your full attention

(B) Once you’ve saved some extra money

(C) When your child’s/children’s school is on

break (if you have kids)

(D) When your spouse/partner wants to take a break

(if you have a significant other)

(E) All of the above

(F) Other [this is a trick question]

But, actually (F) Other is the correct answer.

This is a trick question! [This is my post, so

I get to make the rules.]

To be more specific, the correct answer

really is:

(G) Before you need a break

Why?

You are your business.

If you’re stressed out, tired, and struggling to

keep things together, consider what effects this

is having on your business, your clients, your

growth potential.

I was reminded of this last week, when I hit the

wall.

(Yes, even I have my limits. My often too-high

expectations of what I can accomplish within a

certain time frame push me to those limits. I am

often reminded of who I used to be in my

consulting days – as my dear friend Julia once

said “you can take the girl out of corporate, but

you can’t take the corporate out of the girl.”)

These past few weeks, I’ve been pushing pushing

pushing to get all the supplemental resources for

my new book finished and put up online. And even

though I was getting many signs that I needed to

let go of my own internally-imposed deadline… the

video editors were behind schedule, my assistant

was on her own vacation and could not help me

until she returned, and my Word program

mysteriously seemed to have a break-down each time

I tried to launch it… it wasn’t until my own coach

said: “you know, it probably doesn’t make sense to

talk about what’s next for your business until you

take a day off – you sound exhausted.”

And there it was. Everything laid out before me to

support me in taking this day off. I’d already

asked my sons’ former babysitter to do some work

for me the next day – and she was more than happy

to step back into the nanny role for a day. I had

no other fixed commitments other than drop-off and

pick-up for my older son. An unread fiction book

called my name from the bookshelf in my living

room. And one of my go-to massage therapists

texted me back to say “yes, I have an opening at

11:30.”

Building on last week’s post about

what makes expert entrepreneurs so successful,

it’s important to ASK for this time off – ideally

before you need it – in the following ways:

(1)            First and foremost, give yourself permission

to take a break regularly – a personal day, a

vacation day, a mental health day, whatever you

call it – ideally once a month or more if you can

swing it.

[In fact, I’m building one of these into

my new Fall schedule twice monthly and I can’t

wait to enjoy the fun and freedom on those

Fridays.]

(2)            Take these breaks before you need it – or if

you’re already past that point, then right away.

Remember: one of the benefits of having your own

business is that you make your own hours!

(3)            Be open with those around you – let them

know you’re exhausted, mentally depleted, have no

creative juice left, etc, and that you’d love

their support. Be a role model to your clients,

customers, colleagues, and children.

What kind of person is going to say no to you

taking better care of yourself?

(4)            When you do take time off, turn off your smart

phone and leave your laptop/tablet at the office.

Unplug fully to melt stress, have fun, and

recharge. Do something fun. Go somewhere you’ve

always wanted to go. Read a book you’ve been

thinking of for months.

Then, return to work with more energy, vitality,

and fresh ideas to reinvigorate your business and

those who work with you.

(5)            Take note of all the benefits that come from

you taking a physical and mental break. Ask others

what they notice is different about you upon your

return. Write down all these observations.

And, refer back to that list next time you’re wondering

if you can “afford” to take a break from your busy

life.

(6)            Read the third chapter “Own Your Calendar So

It Doesn’t Own You” in my soon-to-be-released book

to learn more about how to build vacation time

into your schedule and invite others to support

you in doing so.

Recharge, Refuel, and Re-energize: Your Guide to

Taking Back Control of Your

Time and Energy will be released within days –

I can’t wait to share it with you!

If you’re still saying it’s “not the right time,”

“can’t justify the expense,” “next year,” or “my

[……. fill in the blank …..] are counting on me,”

then consider this…

Do you invest as much in YOU, your well-being, and

your development as you do in your office equipment?

your telecom expenses? your accountant? your vehicles?

You can’t run your business without them, and you

certain can’t run your business without you.

For you – and by extension your business – to be

successful, you need to perform at your optimal

level. And if you’re expecting better results from

operating in the same old way, then it might just

be time for a change in your thinking and your

“same ol’ way of doing business.”

I invite you to join me for the ultimate vacation

– one that can be written off as professional

development for your business – to Bali. This

year’s performance breakthrough retreat is October

26 through November 5, and only one month remains

until registration closes.

Why Bali?

•            Completely unplug and relax to a deeper level

than you’ve experienced in years – maybe decades

•            Wipe clean your slate and let go of the bad

habits and thought patterns that are holding you

back

•            Further clarify and recommit to your vision –

for your life and your business

•            Discover the Eastern practices that will get you

back on track and keep you there, and

•            Come back fully recharged and ready to take

your performance and your business to the next

level.

More details here.

Erin

Why is it important to get outside your comfort zone?

I just returned from the Aspen Ideas Festival in (you guessed it!) Aspen, Colorado. Among the many engaging sessions I attended with brilliant, interesting speakers and panelists was one focused on Entrepreneurship in the year 2012.

Everyone agreed that one of the essential ingredients critical for entrepreneurs to be successful is getting uncomfortable in some way. The reason is because doing things outside of your normal comfort zone activates parts of the brain that stimulate creativity and problem solving.

And given that the problems we’re facing in our world are getting more and more complex, you need to perform at your optimum level to make your important contributions—and stimulating a free flow of luminous, brilliant creative ideas is central to your success.

I found this to be particularly timely, because the morning of the same day I attended the Entrepreneurship session, I had done just that. Done something outside of my norm.

I hiked straight up Aspen Mountain, from the base of the gondola at 7908 feet to the Skydeck, a restaurant at 11,212 feet—and I did this in just over two hours.

In my everyday life I play with my kids, I walk my dog, I do yoga, I exercise, but I don’t hike up mountains! In fact, I hadn’t hiked up a mountain of any kind since my husband and I climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro on our honeymoon ten years ago.

And in doing so – in climbing up the steep and rocky dirt trail, straight up to the top of Aspen Mountain, I realized why it’s so important to try new activities and stimulate yourself in different ways.

During my hike, every single one of my senses—and even my intuition—were awake and heightened. And I also felt like my creative juices had been spiked with some special potion that gave me super-human clarity.

More specifically, throughout my hiking experience, I had a huge number of realizations about what to keep in mind when taking a path less traveled. And I wanted to share three of those realizations with you here:

When moving forward toward your vision, it’s not only important to have your next bold goal in mind, but to break up your forward progression into tangible, manageable smaller steps.

Hiking up the mountain was part of my path, moving toward my vision of continually breaking through to higher and higher levels of performance. My immediate bold goal was to get to the top of the mountain, and I knew the rewards would be taking in the gorgeous summertime view and enjoying a delicious lunch at the top!

But, I couldn’t go straight up without stopping. I had to take into consideration the altitude’s affect on my lung capacity. So, I continually sought out the next grassy knoll or interesting rock as a milestone, to stop and rest to catch my breath.

  • What is your broader vision?
  • What is your own next bold goal?
  • What is the next step you’re taking toward that goal?

Own your choices and don’t second guess yourself.

I could have paid $21 and taken the gondola up. It certainly would have been easier, if not cheaper. (Hiking up and taking the gondola down is free.) And I would have still been able to take in the incredible view at the top while eating a nice lunch.

I could have hiked the much longer but less steep Ute Trail, or walked the switchbacks of the summer road that cuts across the slopes where skiers fly downhill in the snowy winter months. Each of those options would have still been quite a workout, and provided an incredible experience of the natural scenery.

But, I chose a different route. For most of the hike, I was loving the experience—my blood pumping, feeling the sun shining on my skin, acutely aware of how amazing it is to be alive.

Yet every once in awhile, that voice of doubt creeped in: could I really do it? Should I turn back and go down? Should I hitch a ride on the back the next truck I saw? What was I thinking, climbing a mountain by myself? Etc, etc.

My advice to you: don’t second guess yourself! There are enough naysayers out there in the world—people who are protecting their own fears and worries onto you—the last thing you need is to join them singing their “let’s play it safe and be average” chorus.

Any voice of doubt or criticism—whether inside you or from the outside—is like a virus that wants to weaken you. The more you give in, the more likely it will win. Instead, keep in mind your bigger picture vision. Remember your bold goal. Know why you made the choice you made and own it!

And one at a time, take your next step forward, focusing on your breath, moving toward that next grassy knoll or interesting rock (i.e., your next small step toward your bold goal).

  • Whose voices are dominant in your head?
  • How are you second-guessing yourself or encouraging yourself?
  • What internal or external voices of doubt or criticism can you let go of?

Pause for perspective.

Every once in awhile—sometimes when I reached that next grassy knoll or interesting rock, and sometimes well before that—I stopped. I took a few minutes to look down the mountain at my progress, to catch my breath, and to celebrate my progress.

Three or four times on the way up, when I paused to get some perspective, I decided to make a small adjustment in my trajectory. Other times, I stuck close to the footpath of grass, rocks, and dirt. Without any external guide, I listened to my breath and used my intuition to guide me.

Sure, there were a few seemingly-wrong turns. But, later on, I realized there was no one right way to ascend the mountain. My way was perfect in the moment. And I made it to the top.

Another wonderful benefit of pausing for perspective was that I caught glimpses of the wild life around me: the mama mule deer and her babe, the hawk circling over a stand of trees, the quirky ground squirrels dashing here and there, the butterflies, the summer flowers with blooms of white and blue and yellow, the busy bees drinking in the nectar of those flowers, and so on.

  • When was the last time you paused to check your progress?
  • Did you decide to stay on course, or to make a slight change in your trajectory?
  • What did you appreciate or notice most when you took a moment to check-in with yourself and your direction?

When you own your business or practice—whether you officially consider yourself an entrepreneur or not—you are taking a road less traveled.

Where you are in your life and business right now is a result of all the choices you’ve made up until this point in your life—whether conscious or subconscious.

Taking the road less traveled can be very satisfying, but it can also be quite challenging. Remember that it’s important to stay true to your vision and continue to get outside your comfort zone to inspire your creative flow.

Allow yourself to be surprised at your inner strength!

If you’ve read this post and wondered what your vision actually is or how you got so completely off course. Or, you’re not sure what your next bold goal should be—or even how to go about creating those next steps, I invite you to get in touch with me.

Whether your next bold step forward is a breakthrough coaching session with me, or joining me for the Performance Breakthrough Retreat to Bali, it’s time for you to get clarity about your direction and what’s most important. It’s time for you to own your path and celebrate your successes. It’s time for you to perform at your optimum level so you can make your positive mark on the world!

In the end, I hiked from 7908 feet to 11,212 feet in just over two hours. I didn’t climb K2 or even get close to my ascent of Mt Kilimanjaro ten years ago, but it was as amazing experience and I felt great doing it!

And you can do it too—one step at a time, one breath at a time.

Erin

Are you ready to shift from “ASAP” to the “In the Right Time” Mindset?

The anxiousness you feel when things don’t go your
way, is often rooted in expectations about what
needs to happen and by when.

This might start at the beginning of your day and
build throughout the morning, making it hard to
focus at work and leaving you feeling like nothing
is getting done.  Or it might start toward the end
of your work day and leave you in such a wound-up
state of mind that makes it hard to go to sleep at
night.

And since you live in a world that is pushing you
to get more done faster, without concern for the
quality of the experience or the outcome, it’s
really hard to keep those expectations in check.

It might be time for you to shift from an ASAP
state of mind to an “in the right time” state of
mind.

You probably know the letters “ASAP” refer to As
Soon as Possible. And the ASAP state of mind is
all about go-go-go. You rush forward throughout
your day from the moment your mind wakes up. As a
result you expect everyone else to operate in this
way too (including your colleagues, your children,
the other drivers on the road, etc), which feeds
into a really chaotic, crazed, frenetic, and
adrenaline-filled whirl of activity that often
spins you completely out of control.

Where in this picture is there room to breathe?
To slow down and appreciate all you have in your
life? To check-in with your life path to see if
you’re on track toward YOUR vision, and not what
others expect of you?

Take my client Judy. When she landed in Bali, she
immediately began to shift her state of mind.
Here’s what she said…

“The thing that was the most positive for me was
the slowness of my breath and the slower pace I
was moving to and the peace that came from walking
away from all of the chaos and stress that I left
behind in Philadelphia. It felt like a layer was
peeled off of me and I left it at the airport. And
the good news is, it stayed at the airport, the
stressful situations were still there when I
returned, but they didn’t affect me the same way.”

What is an “in the right time” state of mind?
It’s rooted in the culture of Bali that allows for
deep knowing that everything happens in the
perfect moment. In fact, you could equate the Bali
state of mind with this new state of mind – where
you know that everything happens “in the right
time.”

There is no need to control every little detail
of your day. You can trust that what is happening
is perfect in each moment.

This relaxing of the Western wound-up mindset
that spins you into a tight little ball of
stressed out unhappiness comes naturally with when
you embrace the “in the right time” mindset.

I first began to experience this shift after
visiting Jamaica, Eritrea, Tanzania, and India.

Each eye-opening culture gave me an even greater
appreciation of slowing down and how powerful it
can be.

But it wasn’t until immersing myself in the
Balinese culture that I felt the significant and
long-lasting shift to the “in the right time” way
of living.

And each return visit is like getting an update
on a vaccination that boosts your immunity to the
strain and weary ASAP way of working and living –
at least for a few years until you need another
shot in the arm. ☺

Can you make this shift without going to Bali?

Yes, in part. I experienced a partial shift
during the time in which I was practicing yoga
and/or meditating daily for at least 60 minutes
each day.. Any breath-centered or energy-centered
practice which requires you to pause and set-aside
the busy-ness of daily life can help you make this
transition.

However…

I don’t know about you, but at this stage of my
current life—running my own business, raising
two young boys, and living in the modern world, I
don’t have 60 minutes each day to practice yoga
and/or meditate anymore. Oh, how I wish I did!

Instead, I have to intentionally extract myself
from my regular life circumstances to get a super
dose of an all-encompassing culture that lives and
breathes the “in the right time” mindset. And that
for me is Bali.

If you’ve made attempt after attempt to recharge,
refocus and re-energize yourself, but found
yourself back where you started, day after day,
month after month, year after year… Then maybe
it’s time for you too to intentionally extract
yourself from your regular life circumstances to
get a super dose of this new way of working and
living.

In my opinion, it’s one of the secrets to
rebooting your mind, body and spirit to come into
alignment with how YOU really want to live.

I invite you to join the rest of us who are going
to Bali this Fall.

While space is still available, you can claim
your spot here:

http://execcareerreinvention.com/Bali/

•          Early decision savings of $250 expires on June 30

•          Additional client savings applies to active private clients and those participants who just completed the Clutter-Clearing, Performance-Boosting group program, as well as past clients of any kind

To read more about Judy’s experience in Bali, click here.

If you have any questions or would like to talk
with me 1-on-1 about the Bali trip or how to go
from ASAP to the “in the right time” mindset,
email me or
call me at 215-771-8968.

Erin