by Erin Owen | Jan 10, 2012 | General
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“I’m getting tired of you”…
These are the words my five year old greeted me
with this morning, five minutes after my husband
walked out the door for a five-day trip.
Did I take it personally? No. Did I reply in
defense of myself? No.
Instead, I leaned into that energy. I opened my
heart, and put myself in my son’s place. I
sympathized with him, and asked him why he felt
that way. I agreed with him, and said “oh I
understand honey.” In short, I gave him the space
to feel what he was feeling and be heard without
judgment.
So why do I share this story with you? This is
certainly not a parenting blog. But we each in our
everyday life face contradictory situations that
can be tough to handle. We each have a choice
about how to use our energy in responding to these
situations.
I invite you today (and maybe each day the rest
of this week) to lean into whatever energy comes
your way. Be in the flow of the moment, and put
yourself in the place of what initially might seem
to be the opposition.
Open your heart, open your ears to listen fully,
and open your mind to the experience. Let go of
expectation and judgment, and be curious and ready
for what just might possibly be a pleasant
surprise.
As a parent, I have to pick my battles. And the
same goes for how I handle challenges in my
everyday work life.
Perhaps today you’ll find that you not only
conserve your energy to put to better use, but
also find yourself more at peace in the world.
Then. Notice how this affects your performance –
how you show up in your interactions, in your
creative work, in your delivery of the “final
product” at work.
And let me know what you discover!
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your family or becoming a slave to overworking?
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by Erin Owen | Dec 20, 2011 | Ezine
Tip #3: Be. At. Peace.
• The cookies didn’t come out just right? Be at peace.
• Not able to afford that bigger gift you wanted
to give? Be at peace.
• Your client holiday cards won’t be ready before
the New Year? Be at peace.
• Not able to get everyone together at the same
time to celebrate this year? Be at peace.
• Ate more of those sweet treats that you wanted
to? Be at peace.
• Not able to fit into your favorite holiday
outfit? Be at peace.
Love your life for all it is now.
Start where you are and appreciate what is.
Be. At. Peace. Repeat this like a mantra anytime you’re feeling otherwise, to help you Get Your Holiday Zen On now.
Say it with me now: “Be. At. Peace.”
Look for more tips over the coming days so you can live your life:
- more “on your terms”, no matter where the holidays take you
- more peaceful and authentically relaxing, no matter how much work you have to do
- and more lightness, ease and feeling on your A-game, no matter what people serve you at the table
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by Erin Owen | Dec 6, 2011 | General
My son’s favorite “subject” at school is Choice.
It’s the only part of his day where he gets to play with whatever toys he wants to, and decide whether or not he wants to do it alone or with other kids in his class. He likes it as much or even better than recess.
Some days he plays with Kinex and makes a toy spaceship. Other days he works out a drama with his friends and enacts a play. Each day is different.
And the best days of all are the days where, for whatever reason, there are two periods of Choice. Oh, the joy! He openly shares about how great those days are without us having to prod him for details about his day at school.
The real reason he likes Choice is that, like most of us, he’s in charge and he gets to say and do what he wants.
In essence, he feels like he is in control.
We human beings, we have free will. So we like the idea that we can be in charge and
be in control.
And even though it’s mostly an illusion (and by “it”, I mean control), one wonderful way we can feel in control is to choose what we do with our lives.
But, the Old Way of Living and Working — the one we’re used to (because we’re in the habit of doing it this way) — is to agree to continue with how things already are, feeling that we can’t make a
change.
It’s often living and working in a model that was constructed based on what we thought we “should” be doing. What we were raised to think was the “right” or “best” way of living. The right kind of job, making the right kind of money, living in the right neighborhood, driving the right car, etc, etc.
Sound familiar? How’s it working for you? And what about what YOU want for your life?
The good news is, you can make a choice to switch to the New Way of Living and Working.
In this case, it’s about saying yes to what makes you happy. It’s about saying yes to saying no. By that I mean, letting go of the shoulds. Letting go of what others think is right for you. It’s about giving yourself permission to let go of external expectations and obligations. To, in essence, do less and feel better about doing less for others so you can do more for you.
No, it’s not about becoming a hermit or letting people down. It’s not about hiding in a corner or pretending you’re sick to give yourself a break.
It’s about acknowledging that you are a human being with free will. And you have the gift of choice. Wonderful choice.
By doing so, you will be choosing to live your life in the flow, without resistance and without stress. By living a life of choices that are in alignment with what you envision for your ideal life, you’ll be in a state of happiness and ease and satisfaction.
So, what Choice will you make today to live your life? (Not someone else’s idea of what your life “should” look like.)
How will Choice shape your New Way of Living and Working today?
