“I should make “x” dollars by the time I’m “y” years old.”
“I should wear this so he is impressed with me.”
“I should buy that and then I’d be truly happy.”
“I should have a baby by now.”
“I should weigh “z” pounds.”
Living in the world of shoulds can be exhausting,
unfulfilling, self-critical, and often makes you
beholden to what others want.
And is most often not based in reality.
When you live in the world of shoulds you
consciously and subconsciously give away the gift
of appreciating what “is” in the now.
And, as a result, you unintentionally drain your
energy, which undermines how well you perform on
the job, how you show up in your relationships,
and negatively affects your health.
Practicing gratitude for the present moment and
all that is in your life now can be both
liberating and challenging.
However, it will release
all that energy that has been tied up in your
stories — in that false reality that most likely you
don’t really want anyway.
In order to make most efficient, effective, and
enjoyable use of your PRANA (your life force
energy), and to take steps toward boosting your
performance to its optimum level, how about trying
First, simply begin to notice when the words
“should” or “should not” show up. Even notice when
you feel the obligatory emotional hook related to
Second, make a conscious choice whether to be
passively guided in the direction of those shoulds
(or should nots)
… OR instead …
… untangle yourself from the shoulds and ask yourself:
“What do I really want?”
and — perhaps most important —
Allow yourself to HEAR your inner most wisdom
heed that wisdom!
Third, begin a daily practice of appreciating
in the moment
all that is now.
It’s like a gratitude practice for the present moment.
Appreciating all that you are
and all that you offer the world.
Appreciating all the opportunities and challenges
that come your way, for what each has to teach
you and how each helps you evolve.
Appreciating everyone who is on your team.
And, yes, appreciating even the material
comforts that you have now.
Try these ideas out,
by taking a trip outside of the land of shoulds,
and see what effects this has on your energy
levels and on your performance
at home, at work, and out in the world at large.
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