The anxiousness you feel when things don’t go your
way, is often rooted in expectations about what
needs to happen and by when.
This might start at the beginning of your day and
build throughout the morning, making it hard to
focus at work and leaving you feeling like nothing
is getting done. Or it might start toward the end
of your work day and leave you in such a wound-up
state of mind that makes it hard to go to sleep at
And since you live in a world that is pushing you
to get more done faster, without concern for the
quality of the experience or the outcome, it’s
really hard to keep those expectations in check.
It might be time for you to shift from an ASAP
state of mind to an “in the right time” state of
You probably know the letters “ASAP” refer to As
Soon as Possible. And the ASAP state of mind is
all about go-go-go. You rush forward throughout
your day from the moment your mind wakes up. As a
result you expect everyone else to operate in this
way too (including your colleagues, your children,
the other drivers on the road, etc), which feeds
into a really chaotic, crazed, frenetic, and
adrenaline-filled whirl of activity that often
spins you completely out of control.
Where in this picture is there room to breathe?
To slow down and appreciate all you have in your
life? To check-in with your life path to see if
you’re on track toward YOUR vision, and not what
others expect of you?
Take my client Judy. When she landed in Bali, she
immediately began to shift her state of mind.
Here’s what she said…
“The thing that was the most positive for me was
the slowness of my breath and the slower pace I
was moving to and the peace that came from walking
away from all of the chaos and stress that I left
behind in Philadelphia. It felt like a layer was
peeled off of me and I left it at the airport. And
the good news is, it stayed at the airport, the
stressful situations were still there when I
returned, but they didn’t affect me the same way.”
What is an “in the right time” state of mind?
It’s rooted in the culture of Bali that allows for
deep knowing that everything happens in the
perfect moment. In fact, you could equate the Bali
state of mind with this new state of mind – where
you know that everything happens “in the right
There is no need to control every little detail
of your day. You can trust that what is happening
is perfect in each moment.
This relaxing of the Western wound-up mindset
that spins you into a tight little ball of
stressed out unhappiness comes naturally with when
you embrace the “in the right time” mindset.
I first began to experience this shift after
visiting Jamaica, Eritrea, Tanzania, and India.
Each eye-opening culture gave me an even greater
appreciation of slowing down and how powerful it
But it wasn’t until immersing myself in the
Balinese culture that I felt the significant and
long-lasting shift to the “in the right time” way
And each return visit is like getting an update
on a vaccination that boosts your immunity to the
strain and weary ASAP way of working and living –
at least for a few years until you need another
shot in the arm. ☺
Can you make this shift without going to Bali?
Yes, in part. I experienced a partial shift
during the time in which I was practicing yoga
and/or meditating daily for at least 60 minutes
each day.. Any breath-centered or energy-centered
practice which requires you to pause and set-aside
the busy-ness of daily life can help you make this
I don’t know about you, but at this stage of my
current life—running my own business, raising
two young boys, and living in the modern world, I
don’t have 60 minutes each day to practice yoga
and/or meditate anymore. Oh, how I wish I did!
Instead, I have to intentionally extract myself
from my regular life circumstances to get a super
dose of an all-encompassing culture that lives and
breathes the “in the right time” mindset. And that
for me is Bali.
If you’ve made attempt after attempt to recharge,
refocus and re-energize yourself, but found
yourself back where you started, day after day,
month after month, year after year… Then maybe
it’s time for you too to intentionally extract
yourself from your regular life circumstances to
get a super dose of this new way of working and
In my opinion, it’s one of the secrets to
rebooting your mind, body and spirit to come into
alignment with how YOU really want to live.
I invite you to join the rest of us who are going
to Bali this Fall.
While space is still available, you can claim
your spot here:
• Early decision savings of $250 expires on June 30
• Additional client savings applies to active private clients and those participants who just completed the Clutter-Clearing, Performance-Boosting group program, as well as past clients of any kind
To read more about Judy’s experience in Bali, click here.
If you have any questions or would like to talk
with me 1-on-1 about the Bali trip or how to go
from ASAP to the “in the right time” mindset,
email me or
call me at 215-771-8968.