When is the best time to take a vacation?

You need vacation time. You know that already.

But when is the best time for you to take vacation?

You might think one of these is the right answer:

(A) When things are slow or you have no demanding

projects demanding your full attention

(B) Once you’ve saved some extra money

(C) When your child’s/children’s school is on

break (if you have kids)

(D) When your spouse/partner wants to take a break

(if you have a significant other)

(E) All of the above

(F) Other [this is a trick question]

But, actually (F) Other is the correct answer.

This is a trick question! [This is my post, so

I get to make the rules.]

To be more specific, the correct answer

really is:

(G) Before you need a break

Why?

You are your business.

If you’re stressed out, tired, and struggling to

keep things together, consider what effects this

is having on your business, your clients, your

growth potential.

I was reminded of this last week, when I hit the

wall.

(Yes, even I have my limits. My often too-high

expectations of what I can accomplish within a

certain time frame push me to those limits. I am

often reminded of who I used to be in my

consulting days – as my dear friend Julia once

said “you can take the girl out of corporate, but

you can’t take the corporate out of the girl.”)

These past few weeks, I’ve been pushing pushing

pushing to get all the supplemental resources for

my new book finished and put up online. And even

though I was getting many signs that I needed to

let go of my own internally-imposed deadline… the

video editors were behind schedule, my assistant

was on her own vacation and could not help me

until she returned, and my Word program

mysteriously seemed to have a break-down each time

I tried to launch it… it wasn’t until my own coach

said: “you know, it probably doesn’t make sense to

talk about what’s next for your business until you

take a day off – you sound exhausted.”

And there it was. Everything laid out before me to

support me in taking this day off. I’d already

asked my sons’ former babysitter to do some work

for me the next day – and she was more than happy

to step back into the nanny role for a day. I had

no other fixed commitments other than drop-off and

pick-up for my older son. An unread fiction book

called my name from the bookshelf in my living

room. And one of my go-to massage therapists

texted me back to say “yes, I have an opening at

11:30.”

Building on last week’s post about

what makes expert entrepreneurs so successful,

it’s important to ASK for this time off – ideally

before you need it – in the following ways:

(1)            First and foremost, give yourself permission

to take a break regularly – a personal day, a

vacation day, a mental health day, whatever you

call it – ideally once a month or more if you can

swing it.

[In fact, I’m building one of these into

my new Fall schedule twice monthly and I can’t

wait to enjoy the fun and freedom on those

Fridays.]

(2)            Take these breaks before you need it – or if

you’re already past that point, then right away.

Remember: one of the benefits of having your own

business is that you make your own hours!

(3)            Be open with those around you – let them

know you’re exhausted, mentally depleted, have no

creative juice left, etc, and that you’d love

their support. Be a role model to your clients,

customers, colleagues, and children.

What kind of person is going to say no to you

taking better care of yourself?

(4)            When you do take time off, turn off your smart

phone and leave your laptop/tablet at the office.

Unplug fully to melt stress, have fun, and

recharge. Do something fun. Go somewhere you’ve

always wanted to go. Read a book you’ve been

thinking of for months.

Then, return to work with more energy, vitality,

and fresh ideas to reinvigorate your business and

those who work with you.

(5)            Take note of all the benefits that come from

you taking a physical and mental break. Ask others

what they notice is different about you upon your

return. Write down all these observations.

And, refer back to that list next time you’re wondering

if you can “afford” to take a break from your busy

life.

(6)            Read the third chapter “Own Your Calendar So

It Doesn’t Own You” in my soon-to-be-released book

to learn more about how to build vacation time

into your schedule and invite others to support

you in doing so.

Recharge, Refuel, and Re-energize: Your Guide to

Taking Back Control of Your

Time and Energy will be released within days –

I can’t wait to share it with you!

If you’re still saying it’s “not the right time,”

“can’t justify the expense,” “next year,” or “my

[……. fill in the blank …..] are counting on me,”

then consider this…

Do you invest as much in YOU, your well-being, and

your development as you do in your office equipment?

your telecom expenses? your accountant? your vehicles?

You can’t run your business without them, and you

certain can’t run your business without you.

For you – and by extension your business – to be

successful, you need to perform at your optimal

level. And if you’re expecting better results from

operating in the same old way, then it might just

be time for a change in your thinking and your

“same ol’ way of doing business.”

I invite you to join me for the ultimate vacation

– one that can be written off as professional

development for your business – to Bali. This

year’s performance breakthrough retreat is October

26 through November 5, and only one month remains

until registration closes.

Why Bali?

•            Completely unplug and relax to a deeper level

than you’ve experienced in years – maybe decades

•            Wipe clean your slate and let go of the bad

habits and thought patterns that are holding you

back

•            Further clarify and recommit to your vision –

for your life and your business

•            Discover the Eastern practices that will get you

back on track and keep you there, and

•            Come back fully recharged and ready to take

your performance and your business to the next

level.

More details here.

Erin

What do the most successful entrepreneurs DO to drive their success?

What do the most successful entrepreneurs DO to
drive their success?

They ASK.

I’m talking about entrepreneurs who have:
•    More than 15 years experience
•    Started up and run multiple businesses across
industries
•    Have taken at least one of those companies
public
•    Generated earnings of more than $2 million
•    And more

Why do they ASK, what do they ASK, and how do they
ASK? I invite you to read on.

Why do they ASK?

They know that in order to bring others on board,
to support them in achieving their vision, they
need to cultivate a kind of shared ownership in
evolving that vision – something I call Energetic
Vesting.

They have to be willing to let go of their vision
enough to let others in to co-create it, and be
flexible to respond to contingencies that arise in
the process. In other words, they work with others
in an flexible way to make lemonades out of
lemons.

And an essential part of how they do this and
their success is “the ASK.”

This directly supports one of the foundational
performance principles I teach to private clients
in our work together. That is, “Wherever You
Direct Your Attention, Energy Follows” – or “like
attracts like.”

If you want more of something in your business or
your life, focus on that – in what you think and
feel, in what you say to others and yourself, and
in what you do.

Exactly. Isn’t that why its said ASK and ye shall
receive?

What do they ASK?

The most successful serial entrepreneurs ask:

•    Friends, colleagues, family members what they
think of their vision
•    Suppliers to be more flexible about their
payment terms
•    Key influencers to be part of their board
•    People they know, like, and respect to help them
grow the business
•    Ideal customers for business

In short, they ASK anyone, anything.

How do they ASK?

The exact details of this critical skill are
currently being researched by Dr. Saras Sarasvathy
of the Darden Business School at The University of
Virginia. She led a fantastic workshop that I
attended yesterday in Manhattan called “How to
Think and Act Like An Entrepeneur.”

But, one thing became clear during our discussion
yesterday. You must be willing to share your
vision – and active in telling everyone about it.

This is something my good friend and colleague
Stew Friedman of The Wharton School at The
University of Pennsylvania knows all about. In his
Total Leadership program, he teaches
people (not just C-suite leaders) how to
effectively paint a compelling picture of the
future in order to enroll the most important
people in your life to support you.

In other words, you have to open up and share what
you’re up to, get others excited about that picture
of the future, then ASK others to be a part of
what you’re creating.

What’s my ASK?

Is it time for you to learn how to shift your
thinking to what you want more of… to free-up your
energy and achieve better results – all by
learning simple, Eastern-inspired ideas for how
you can make more space in your life?

If you’re wondering how on earth you can carve out
more time (or find more energy) to ASK others for
what you need and want in your business – and your
life – then I invite you to join me for my next
group teleclass program that focuses on clearing
away all the unnecessary stuff that is getting in
the way of your success.

The Clutter-Clearing, Performance-Boosting Program
begins in just three days – on Monday, July 23 –
and there are just a few spots left. More details
here. The investment is minimal – only $188 (or less
than $27 per 30-minute call) and the returns are
boundless.

What’s Ahead for Me?

In addition to leading this next Clutter-Clearing,
Performance-Boosting group teleclass program

and putting the final touches on the online
resources that are part of my soon-to-be-released
book Refuel, Recharge, Re-energize: The Conscious
Entrepreneur’s Guide to Taking Back Control of
Your Time and Energy, …

…these next 60 days – beginning today — I’m
excited to be part of a ground-breaking research
project led by Saras and her team to investigate
just how successful entrepreneurs ASK, including
looking into what gets in the way of them not
asking.

To learn more about the work of Dr. Saras
Sarasvathy, visit her website here.

To learn more about the work of Dr. Stew Friedman,
visit his website here.

To meet with me privately to zero-in on what’s
getting in the way of you ASKing for what you want
more of in your business and your life, schedule a
private 1-on-1 breakthrough coaching session with
me here.

Even better, enter the word BREAKTHROUGH in the
coupon field for 50% savings.

Here’s to your success – by ASKing for more of
what you want in your business and your life!

Erin

Only 8 spots remain. Are you ready to take the plunge?

Kay was exhausted.

She was behind on paying her bills, hadn’t eaten a decent meal in weeks, and was struggling to find that spark of passion that had originally driven her to leave her cushy job and start her own business.

All around her was clutter. Piles of unopened mail, scribbled notes with the details of unreturned phone calls, and glimpses of days-old take-out food containers buried under the mess.

And none of this was because she wasn’t smart or successful.

None of this was because she had been raised by pigs in a barn.

She was simply overwhelmed by the complexity of her life, and didn’t even know where to begin to dig her way out.

That is, until she learned my time-tested, Eastern-inspired tips for clearing away the energy-draining, stress-inducing burdens that were keeping her from living life as she envisioned it.

Life is too short to let these situations be your normal. Things like… 

  • Waking up in the middle of the night full of anxiety
  • Feeling like the only way to get by is to rely on caffeine and those stress-induced adrenaline rushes
  • Hearing yourself responding to fun events with a “I would, if I only had more time”
  • Getting buried alive in your piles of stuff
  • Giving up on your vision because you think it’s just easier to give in to inertia

Seriously!

Like Kay, you too can discover how to make the following YOUR new normal…

  • Have more energy and feel more focused
  • Achieve more without having to work harder
  • Release some of your burdens and experience more freedom in your life
  • Say goodbye to overwork, overwhelm, and diminishing vitality
  • Get your life back on track and feel excited to get up each morning

In less then 10 days, I’m starting a special Clutter-Clearing, Performance-Boosting Summer Challenge on July 23rd.

And by the way, did I mention that only 8 spots remain?

“Your approach made clearing out my work environment effortless.” –Laura, Audit Data Specialist, Woodbridge NJ

“Your program was practical, simple and allowed me to get almost immediate results.” –Jay, Consulting Engineer, Philadelphia PA

“The program was presented in easy-to-implement bite-sized nuggets.” –Irma, Bone Health Coach, New Hope PA

It’s time to take back control of your time and energy. Let me show you how.

Kay did it. And you can too.

Ready to get the details and see how easy you can make this work this summer?

Get more information.

Why is it important to get outside your comfort zone?

I just returned from the Aspen Ideas Festival in (you guessed it!) Aspen, Colorado. Among the many engaging sessions I attended with brilliant, interesting speakers and panelists was one focused on Entrepreneurship in the year 2012.

Everyone agreed that one of the essential ingredients critical for entrepreneurs to be successful is getting uncomfortable in some way. The reason is because doing things outside of your normal comfort zone activates parts of the brain that stimulate creativity and problem solving.

And given that the problems we’re facing in our world are getting more and more complex, you need to perform at your optimum level to make your important contributions—and stimulating a free flow of luminous, brilliant creative ideas is central to your success.

I found this to be particularly timely, because the morning of the same day I attended the Entrepreneurship session, I had done just that. Done something outside of my norm.

I hiked straight up Aspen Mountain, from the base of the gondola at 7908 feet to the Skydeck, a restaurant at 11,212 feet—and I did this in just over two hours.

In my everyday life I play with my kids, I walk my dog, I do yoga, I exercise, but I don’t hike up mountains! In fact, I hadn’t hiked up a mountain of any kind since my husband and I climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro on our honeymoon ten years ago.

And in doing so – in climbing up the steep and rocky dirt trail, straight up to the top of Aspen Mountain, I realized why it’s so important to try new activities and stimulate yourself in different ways.

During my hike, every single one of my senses—and even my intuition—were awake and heightened. And I also felt like my creative juices had been spiked with some special potion that gave me super-human clarity.

More specifically, throughout my hiking experience, I had a huge number of realizations about what to keep in mind when taking a path less traveled. And I wanted to share three of those realizations with you here:

When moving forward toward your vision, it’s not only important to have your next bold goal in mind, but to break up your forward progression into tangible, manageable smaller steps.

Hiking up the mountain was part of my path, moving toward my vision of continually breaking through to higher and higher levels of performance. My immediate bold goal was to get to the top of the mountain, and I knew the rewards would be taking in the gorgeous summertime view and enjoying a delicious lunch at the top!

But, I couldn’t go straight up without stopping. I had to take into consideration the altitude’s affect on my lung capacity. So, I continually sought out the next grassy knoll or interesting rock as a milestone, to stop and rest to catch my breath.

  • What is your broader vision?
  • What is your own next bold goal?
  • What is the next step you’re taking toward that goal?

Own your choices and don’t second guess yourself.

I could have paid $21 and taken the gondola up. It certainly would have been easier, if not cheaper. (Hiking up and taking the gondola down is free.) And I would have still been able to take in the incredible view at the top while eating a nice lunch.

I could have hiked the much longer but less steep Ute Trail, or walked the switchbacks of the summer road that cuts across the slopes where skiers fly downhill in the snowy winter months. Each of those options would have still been quite a workout, and provided an incredible experience of the natural scenery.

But, I chose a different route. For most of the hike, I was loving the experience—my blood pumping, feeling the sun shining on my skin, acutely aware of how amazing it is to be alive.

Yet every once in awhile, that voice of doubt creeped in: could I really do it? Should I turn back and go down? Should I hitch a ride on the back the next truck I saw? What was I thinking, climbing a mountain by myself? Etc, etc.

My advice to you: don’t second guess yourself! There are enough naysayers out there in the world—people who are protecting their own fears and worries onto you—the last thing you need is to join them singing their “let’s play it safe and be average” chorus.

Any voice of doubt or criticism—whether inside you or from the outside—is like a virus that wants to weaken you. The more you give in, the more likely it will win. Instead, keep in mind your bigger picture vision. Remember your bold goal. Know why you made the choice you made and own it!

And one at a time, take your next step forward, focusing on your breath, moving toward that next grassy knoll or interesting rock (i.e., your next small step toward your bold goal).

  • Whose voices are dominant in your head?
  • How are you second-guessing yourself or encouraging yourself?
  • What internal or external voices of doubt or criticism can you let go of?

Pause for perspective.

Every once in awhile—sometimes when I reached that next grassy knoll or interesting rock, and sometimes well before that—I stopped. I took a few minutes to look down the mountain at my progress, to catch my breath, and to celebrate my progress.

Three or four times on the way up, when I paused to get some perspective, I decided to make a small adjustment in my trajectory. Other times, I stuck close to the footpath of grass, rocks, and dirt. Without any external guide, I listened to my breath and used my intuition to guide me.

Sure, there were a few seemingly-wrong turns. But, later on, I realized there was no one right way to ascend the mountain. My way was perfect in the moment. And I made it to the top.

Another wonderful benefit of pausing for perspective was that I caught glimpses of the wild life around me: the mama mule deer and her babe, the hawk circling over a stand of trees, the quirky ground squirrels dashing here and there, the butterflies, the summer flowers with blooms of white and blue and yellow, the busy bees drinking in the nectar of those flowers, and so on.

  • When was the last time you paused to check your progress?
  • Did you decide to stay on course, or to make a slight change in your trajectory?
  • What did you appreciate or notice most when you took a moment to check-in with yourself and your direction?

When you own your business or practice—whether you officially consider yourself an entrepreneur or not—you are taking a road less traveled.

Where you are in your life and business right now is a result of all the choices you’ve made up until this point in your life—whether conscious or subconscious.

Taking the road less traveled can be very satisfying, but it can also be quite challenging. Remember that it’s important to stay true to your vision and continue to get outside your comfort zone to inspire your creative flow.

Allow yourself to be surprised at your inner strength!

If you’ve read this post and wondered what your vision actually is or how you got so completely off course. Or, you’re not sure what your next bold goal should be—or even how to go about creating those next steps, I invite you to get in touch with me.

Whether your next bold step forward is a breakthrough coaching session with me, or joining me for the Performance Breakthrough Retreat to Bali, it’s time for you to get clarity about your direction and what’s most important. It’s time for you to own your path and celebrate your successes. It’s time for you to perform at your optimum level so you can make your positive mark on the world!

In the end, I hiked from 7908 feet to 11,212 feet in just over two hours. I didn’t climb K2 or even get close to my ascent of Mt Kilimanjaro ten years ago, but it was as amazing experience and I felt great doing it!

And you can do it too—one step at a time, one breath at a time.

Erin

Are you ready to shift from “ASAP” to the “In the Right Time” Mindset?

The anxiousness you feel when things don’t go your
way, is often rooted in expectations about what
needs to happen and by when.

This might start at the beginning of your day and
build throughout the morning, making it hard to
focus at work and leaving you feeling like nothing
is getting done.  Or it might start toward the end
of your work day and leave you in such a wound-up
state of mind that makes it hard to go to sleep at
night.

And since you live in a world that is pushing you
to get more done faster, without concern for the
quality of the experience or the outcome, it’s
really hard to keep those expectations in check.

It might be time for you to shift from an ASAP
state of mind to an “in the right time” state of
mind.

You probably know the letters “ASAP” refer to As
Soon as Possible. And the ASAP state of mind is
all about go-go-go. You rush forward throughout
your day from the moment your mind wakes up. As a
result you expect everyone else to operate in this
way too (including your colleagues, your children,
the other drivers on the road, etc), which feeds
into a really chaotic, crazed, frenetic, and
adrenaline-filled whirl of activity that often
spins you completely out of control.

Where in this picture is there room to breathe?
To slow down and appreciate all you have in your
life? To check-in with your life path to see if
you’re on track toward YOUR vision, and not what
others expect of you?

Take my client Judy. When she landed in Bali, she
immediately began to shift her state of mind.
Here’s what she said…

“The thing that was the most positive for me was
the slowness of my breath and the slower pace I
was moving to and the peace that came from walking
away from all of the chaos and stress that I left
behind in Philadelphia. It felt like a layer was
peeled off of me and I left it at the airport. And
the good news is, it stayed at the airport, the
stressful situations were still there when I
returned, but they didn’t affect me the same way.”

What is an “in the right time” state of mind?
It’s rooted in the culture of Bali that allows for
deep knowing that everything happens in the
perfect moment. In fact, you could equate the Bali
state of mind with this new state of mind – where
you know that everything happens “in the right
time.”

There is no need to control every little detail
of your day. You can trust that what is happening
is perfect in each moment.

This relaxing of the Western wound-up mindset
that spins you into a tight little ball of
stressed out unhappiness comes naturally with when
you embrace the “in the right time” mindset.

I first began to experience this shift after
visiting Jamaica, Eritrea, Tanzania, and India.

Each eye-opening culture gave me an even greater
appreciation of slowing down and how powerful it
can be.

But it wasn’t until immersing myself in the
Balinese culture that I felt the significant and
long-lasting shift to the “in the right time” way
of living.

And each return visit is like getting an update
on a vaccination that boosts your immunity to the
strain and weary ASAP way of working and living –
at least for a few years until you need another
shot in the arm. ☺

Can you make this shift without going to Bali?

Yes, in part. I experienced a partial shift
during the time in which I was practicing yoga
and/or meditating daily for at least 60 minutes
each day.. Any breath-centered or energy-centered
practice which requires you to pause and set-aside
the busy-ness of daily life can help you make this
transition.

However…

I don’t know about you, but at this stage of my
current life—running my own business, raising
two young boys, and living in the modern world, I
don’t have 60 minutes each day to practice yoga
and/or meditate anymore. Oh, how I wish I did!

Instead, I have to intentionally extract myself
from my regular life circumstances to get a super
dose of an all-encompassing culture that lives and
breathes the “in the right time” mindset. And that
for me is Bali.

If you’ve made attempt after attempt to recharge,
refocus and re-energize yourself, but found
yourself back where you started, day after day,
month after month, year after year… Then maybe
it’s time for you too to intentionally extract
yourself from your regular life circumstances to
get a super dose of this new way of working and
living.

In my opinion, it’s one of the secrets to
rebooting your mind, body and spirit to come into
alignment with how YOU really want to live.

I invite you to join the rest of us who are going
to Bali this Fall.

While space is still available, you can claim
your spot here:

http://execcareerreinvention.com/Bali/

•          Early decision savings of $250 expires on June 30

•          Additional client savings applies to active private clients and those participants who just completed the Clutter-Clearing, Performance-Boosting group program, as well as past clients of any kind

To read more about Judy’s experience in Bali, click here.

If you have any questions or would like to talk
with me 1-on-1 about the Bali trip or how to go
from ASAP to the “in the right time” mindset,
email me or
call me at 215-771-8968.

Erin